Same old same old =[

I have been sexually active since the age of 13 but I hope I can help anyways because I have still been very self concious about my large labia but is over it now. For me it has definately helped to just have sex even though I was scared about what my sex partner would say because now I know from experience that guys either don't care or really like large labia. Before I found this web site I thought that they just accepted it and dealed with what I thought could only be percieved ugly and unlucky but after reading a lot of letters etc. here I decided to test it. Was it really true that guys actually love large labia?? At the same time I already got a lot of confidence from this web site, so when I had sex with new people from this point I was acting very confident and in the believe that they would like my labia and I was testing at the same time how they would respond to my labia and I'm not lying when I say that practically every singe sex partner I have had since then have said nice things about my pussy!:-)
My point here is that you have to try what you are afraid of because if you don't it's to easy for your mind to reproduce the negative thoughts and you kind of create the problems in your head but if you try to have sex like you want to you will find out that those problems doesn't exist (of course I can't promise that there will never be an asshole in your life but the huge majority will be cool).  
At the same time: believe the words you hear here and do everything you can to reproduce them in your head, tell your self over and over that large labia are sexy and desireble and meet the world like that. If you don't believe it 100 %, act like you do when you try out sex and rest will come

Best wishes, Ann

It totally baffles me how you women can NOT be bragging about your lips... for ladies interested in pursuing males, it is just a bare, naked fact that guys are fired up by what they can SEE.
Pussy is lovely, that's an edible fact.
PROMINENT pussy catches a man's eye, draws his attention to your warm, wet area, invites his gaze to linger, makes him want to get closer and inspect you with eyes, fingers, nose and mouth...

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Lisa baby, stop doubting & start pouting your lips!

I know you were writing in response for women, and I apologize for responding in a man's sense. A large 'lipped' lady in a sense is like a large penis on a man. Whereas a large penis, not enormous but larger than average gives women intense arousal. A beautiful hanging clit and lips also gives a man visual and physical stimulation as well. There is just something about 'un-wrapping' a present and finding more than you expected. When you enjoy oral sex as I do, its always more fun to have a mouth full of aroused clit so your tongue can explore every nook and cranny.
Thanks Dj

Thank you guys :) I will try, it's just  scary...plus i havnt had sex before, so i will be a bit clueless aswell lol xx

dj.
stop comparing pussy to penis.
'women like big penis, guys like big lips'
blaaahblaahh.
i like hair on the chest of men.
men do NOT like hair on woman's titties.

it's just not compareable, duuuuh.

pussy is pussy.
dick is dick, aight?

Love,
I don't like hairy chest or hairy balls. Some girls don't care.
Some guys like hairy pussy and some don't. It's just taste.
maybe it is comparable after all :p

well i did not like myself, but im slowing getting there  >_<   i did get involved with a friend of mine. he loved my lips. it was after a club so i did not want him going down on me!  but we just kissed.......naked lol.  he told me pussy is pussy as long as its not extremely bushy ha.  but it helped me open up being with a friend i could trust. it takes time

I posted a letter in July (# 3030) "if only," i explained how awful and lowly i felt about it but seriously and i mean this i would live by what Ann said "My point here is that you have to try what you are afraid of because if you don't it's to easy for your mind to reproduce the negative thoughts" i really truely couldn't agree more. I decided the other day that i would be confident and do it, and i tell you what it's one of the best things that i've ever done, and found someone who hasn't even mentioned it and just wants me :P in bed and out. So i urge you to be confident, even if you're not. You can soon learn to be. I promise it'll change your life completely. Good luck :)

Thanks alot guys, i'm sure i will get there soon enough :) this website has helped me so much. Although i'm not there yet, i do think i will get there soon thanks to this site, because before this, i just thought i will have to learn to live without sex :( but i mean, it's not like im unatractive, i do actually get quite a bit of male attention when i am out and things, but i just always am thinking in the back of my mind, sure they like me now, but wait till they see whats down there, they might have a different opoion. And i do blame the media. I do not no if anyone is from the U.K and heard of the film kidulthood, but in that film, the two guys are sat around looking at a lad mag, and one of them starts talking about one of the girls vaginas saying it looks like the girls insides are hanging out, and he wouldnt go near a girl you didnt have a "neat and tidy, tucked in pussy" When i was watching that it was like a smack in the face. Just thought well there you go...men think its gross :( xx

Hi Kalie
I'm so very happy to hear that you just tried to be confident and that you had such a good experience with it:-) Because in the real world guys really like it and you will only see that if you try.  
Lisa I understand that you feel so much down after a film like that but seriously I tell you that is not the way guys normally think. Only a very very small group of men think like that. So basicly there is very good chances of good experiences. Unfortunately the assholes speak louder and we tend to remember their words more clearly but that is why it is so important to read all the letters here and reproduce those words in your mind instead.

I used to be married to a woman with a large labia and she thought she was unattractive down below. I thought otherwise and convinced her to go to a naturist resort, which we did many times, but the first time it was very difficult for her.

For the first couple of days she lay on the beach with her legs crossed, constantly asking me if anyone could see anything and I reassured that even if they could, she was amongst friends.

Then on the third day we had a nice lunch, sank a bottle of red wine between us and headed to the beach in that "relaxed" mood. At first she lay in a normal pose, so an instant result there, then began to open her legs and from that moment on the fear seemed to disappear.  

Although we are no longer married, I look back on those beach days with happiness and pride, seeing her lying on the beach showing her beautiful lips to the world. Whilst no comments were every made, I could see she got many admiring glances from both sexes.

My advice, become a naturist and share your beauty with the world.

LR,

I really hope you get there, to me women in general are beautiful creatures who's physical forms aee proif in themselves in the existance of a higher power, and the pussy is no different. To me all pussy is no different. All pussy is beautiful to me, it just so happens that the pussies that have more to them are the most beautiful.

DJ,  

I found your comments to be right on, and very similar to statements I've made in the past.

Love,  

your comments were inappropriate and devisive, and they have no place here. I found it to be fitting that on your post, much like all of the nastier comments that have been made on this site, you chose to hide your email address.

just my opinion.  t_d

Lisa

I hope you are feeling better about your body image. I'm a guy and I just love large labia. I find it so sexy and erotic. Many men will love your large labia but there may also be a few that don't and that's normal. If you run into this try not to take it personal. Trust me when I say for every body feature there is a group of men that will love it. Myself, I prefer medium size breasts but there are men that love large breasts and just as many that love small breasts.

I think society is unjust toward women because it places tremendous pressure on women to conform to an unrealistic expectation when it comes to appearance.

If and when you can accept yourself for who you are you will exude more self confidence and therefore will naturally appeal to more men and you will find someone that will change your life forever.  

I wish you all the success in finding a partner.

CD

Thanks CD, and the rest of you guys! I hope so x

Personally, I am a runway model. I have been in national bikini print ads and that is the farthest I have gone in the modeling world. Why? because I am so scared of changing in front of photographers or other bikini/print models. Not like I want to do sexual ads, I just KNow I am best at bikini/lingerie and should pursue that.  

I have had so many swimwear runway shows where models really wonder why I go to the bathroom  to change instead of change with them. I have never changed in front of another girl! I am afraid of how different/large my vulva will look! Once I sunburned my bum and I showed my roommate by leaning over pulling my pants down...she looked astonished but did not say anything....yes you can see the dangle and it is not even even!  

So I hide....I have show a couple boyfriends and told them about my insecurity but they always seem to brush it off and pretend like I never said anything, like nothing ever happened. Not like it was perfect. They don't know what to say. I don't know what to do, but I do believe it is prohibiting my modeling career.