If only...

kalie

July 25, 2010

I'm an 18 year old girl and i've never been confident with the way i look let alone downstairs :S. I noticed from quite a young age that i was "different" but never really thought much about it untill i became sexually active around a year and a half ago. I've had a few boyfriends, but nearly every one i've been too scared to feel comfortable around. I do greatly admire this site as it is so lovely to see people admire it rather than hate it, i just wish i was in the "admire" section. I actually blame media for a lot of it, teenage girls have enough pressure as it is without things like this being brought attention to in a negative way. That programme on Channel 4 "embarrasing bodies" was my worst nightmare. Hence the name "embarrasing" it showed everyone that it was a negative and bad thing. WHY? why can't it be the opposite. After that programme i heard/hear everyone talking about it in a negative way and how gruesomely disgusting and "granny-like" it is. And it really has gotton me down.. to the point where i would consider surgery to remove it.

And a couple of partners i have been sexual with.. i've explained how i felt and they didn't think much of it but i got dumped a week later? Also, i hear people (even my friends) saying how much they would hate to have this "problem" and how awful it must be, quite honestly makes me want to curl up into a ball and disappear.

The annoying thing is if it wasn't brought to attention and i could relax about the fact that everyone comes in all shapes and sizes i wouldn't have a problem.. because i am a very sexual person.. which is a shame because i find myself not in any way confident in the bedroom... which i know i probably could be if this wasn't an issue for me. And i realise the obvious answer would be "find someone who loves you for you and appreciate it and that it's different, but in my eyes this is not the answer, i just want to be able to have sex with no worries whatsoever!

I just don't know what to do and wish i could just be happy with it :S

Replies

July 26, 2010

I am exactly the same hun, sounds like a letter i could of written myself lol. I think we just need to not give a crap about what people think, if they dont like it down there, move on. We will find somebody that does :) this site has already helped me so much, i feel so much more confident, i too am i very sexual person, but havnt been able to have an outlet for it, because i was never confident enought to even sleep with anybody. But i feel myself changing since ive been looking on this site, and the future looks bright :) thanks to the words of the labia lovers haha
So chin up sweetie! I know you will find a guy who loves your entire body.
Lisa xxx

Philip

July 27, 2010

Hi Kalie,

I wish people weren't so close minded...unfortunately I find
that individuals are intelligent, but the masses are an unthinking,
uncaring moronic entity which has dangerous tendencies.

Whilst there is nothing I can really do to help you out, I wish
there was.

I've been lucky recently to find myself a beautiful young lady
with a moderately large labia & I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! : )
I was so happy when we first made love, as it was like finding
buried treasure....

I wish you the best beautiful lady.

Philip

July 27, 2010

Kalie,
The next time you meet a guy that you're interested in, try not mentioning your confidence issues about your labia. Act as if your completely confident about your pussy. Even if its an act. If you act like its abnormal or an issue, theyre going to perceive it that way. Make them think twice about any preconceived notion they may have had about big pussy lips. Guys like confident women, particularly in the bedroom ;)

Philip

July 28, 2010

Amen to that sister! : )

LabiaLover

July 29, 2010

K,
You are right on the money that Kalie should never bring up the issue. As soon as us guys detect a gal has "an esteem" issue with anything (doesn't even need to be a sexual matter), most of us guys begin to percieve a potential problem that can cut short what could have been an otherwise normal longterm relationship. My wife never brought it up before we were married, and never has to this day, but I have though, only to tell her what gourgeous pussy she has, and she would tell me that she has heard that before.

My wife figured out long before we met that she had a special attraction that lights a fire in men's minds (and their eyeballs), she used it to her benefit in her selection of men, knowing many men have an inherent "weakness" (her "strength"), when it comes the appearance of her pussy.

My wife had several sex partners before we were married, she has only very briefly discussed details with me how she was satisfied with the sex or not satisfied with the sex (it turned me on to listen to her talk about it), but finally I figured it out that she was training me to give her the maximum pleasure possible, and Kalie that's what you need to be doing, it'll turn your guy on if you approach this as if it were a training ground for your guy, and not a situation whereby you think it's a situation that is an "endurance effort" on your part.

LL

kalie

August 9, 2010

Guys, i'd just like to thankyou all so much for taking the time to reply to me, means the world.. and guess what..

I recently got a bf, and thought yeah, why the heck should i mention downstairs and my esteem issues (which i always thought was the answer before as it'd make me relax) how wrong i was!! It just made me feel even more self conscious and the fact they were then aware made it 10 x worse and nerve racking. so i thought why not take the confident approach...

Didn't mention it acted as confident as i felt was feesable and wow! Bedroom dep.. doesn't seem to be an issue, he just seems to want it more and more :L haha. He hasn't brought it up, why should i? and at the end of the day if he doesn't like it he can lump it, i am me and thats all i can be :D xx

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