A different perspective.

Very good point!

Yes it made a lot of sense. I have often thought of this analogy. Imagine how men must have suffered a few decades ago when tight jeans were in style!

Like I pointed out in another comment on another topic, I am a active young woman who horseback rides, rides bikes, swims, models, quads, etc. I also have larger labia than most of the girls in these pictures. They are not HUGE but they are a decent size. I have never experienced chafing or discomfort doing any of these things unless I was attempting to ride a bike or my horse, commando (without panties) in jeans. Or unless I was wearing a bathing suit that was too small or tight. I find that these are terrible excuses. In rare cases YES women feel discomfort but that discomfort can be avoided by making small changes to your panties.  

As for thinking it is ugly, we all have something on our body that we thing is ugly. But it's not about the imperfections, it is about overcoming them and loving ourselves for who we are. Not what we do or don't look like. If you can not learn to love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you? Sure I can be insecure, but for me personally, I worry more about toning down for my bikini body than I do about my labia popping out of that bikini. Why? Because I would rather look good in a bikini and flaunt myself than hide and cover myself up because I am afraid someone is going to make fun of my pretty soft lips. Confidence is key. And it's not like it is my vagina everyone is looking at. It's my face. Or in some cases the rest of my body. But that is just not a concern of mine.  

You have to be comfortable in your own body. And only YOU can make yourself comfortable. You do not need plastic surgery to be pretty. There is this little thing called natural beauty. It is slowly dying in this eccentric world we live in. But I have hope.

Shawna, I think you might just be really lucky not to experience any pain or discomfort bc of your labia.. While i have noticed that the material of the underwear does make a huge difference, i always have pain or discomfort. Even when i dont wear underwear, then the jeans just dig into them. I think it might also depend on the shape of the vulva. not just the size. Cus i have a rather big/long hood which makes my clitoris farther away from my body than some.. so its more of it being pushed on by tight clothing (jeans) than like chaffing.. in my case anyway. I also experience chaffing though. not to the point where you can see the redness on my vulva but.. to the point where the edges of my labia are irritated and almost burn .. my gynecologist recommended Desitin (baby rash ointment. Kind of works, not much though. And theres there the pinching, or the odd feeling of it either going to one side of my jeans or the other.. I even have friends whose labia are much smaller than mine and still have discomfort. So im totally jealous that you can do all that(horseback riding,etc) and not experience pain or discomfort.. Although the main reason i would rather have smaller labia is bc of the looks, the discomfort is more of a constant reminder to me..

Tempest,

Well said my friend well said. . .

The only thing I would add is that yes, it can be uncomfortable to do certain things with balls in your pants, but then like you I just avoid doing those things, or wear some kind of protection (like a cup or something) if I'm doing something that could cause me pain (like paintballing or hockey which I play).

I think women should try to see things the same way in that regard, since it can easily be deduced that it would be an easy thing to work around in most cases.

If you know you have large labia, don't wear thongs that may cause them to pop up if you intend to go bike riding later on -- different story if you're meeting a lover or your man later on for some fun though!

I think all of the scenarios are situational in nature, and can easily be addressed with some sort of planning in advance or whatever -- just like us guys do.

Now the ladies who think their labia are ugly, or whatever the case might be, that's a different story -- I would just say, have a man lick them first and experience that feeling before coming to a conclusion about whether or not you should get them "reduced" or "hacked off", since I don't condone either of those things. =0)

- Eric

K, you mentioned that you get pain or irritation when you don't wear panties with jeans but why would you do that?! Jeans would hurt anyone without panties. And those minor irritations are a result of any vagina, men get them too (their leg might squish their balls or their pants pinch them) that will not change if you get surgery or not. But do you really want to conform and make your vagina look like a prepubescent girls? Is there any reason behind your dislike for the way it looks?? (I don't like the way mine looks but I am not going to chop it off and risk losing all sensation. That's just sad :(  )

Shawna,  
At what point did i say i was going to have surgery?? I didn't.

K,

Yours is a case where my comments about choice of clothing are especially appropriate. You are a woman who has been especially blessed, not only are your labia and clitoris very pronounced, they are also very sensitive. By all rights you should be enjoying an extremely satisfying sex life. We just need to figure out what it takes to make that kitty purr. We've already gone through your sex life at length, so I won't touch that again unless you ask. But I do want to make an observation about what you've said about your clothing. I can't think of any man who doesn't like seeing a hot babe in a pair of tight jeans, but I see no reason that you should be a slave to fashion if it hurts. I especially love ladies who go commando, but once again, it shouldn't hurt. you might want to consider jeans that are not so tight, and forget about the jeans commando thing all together. Better yet, try wearing pants that are made of something besides denim. and if you want to forgo the panties, wear a skirt instead. that will make your labia happier. And get all of our fantasies spinning.

XOXO t_d

Tempest,  
When i wear loose fitting jeans or pants, it doesnt feel any better. My labia are so long that the edges of my labia still rub against the seem of the pants, which is almost worse than the squeezing that tight jeans do.. Wearing a skirt without panties would be ideal, but i can do that... I would be mortified if somehow i flashed my cooch to anybody. Even if i had a "normal" pussy, that would be really embarassing and kinda trashy.
Luckily i wear scrubs to work so its not that bad at work, but anytime i get home from the store, or going out or whatever the case, i always change into loose sweatpants with the lowest seam (crotch) possible..  
I know my choice of clothing isnt the best for my situation but unless i wanna wear saggy sweatpants with the crotch down to my knees all the time, i dont really have many options..

K,  

Ok firstly. I absolutely hate it when anyone refers to any pussy as "normal". I truly believe that there's no such thing. I know that you put it in quotes, and I appreciate what I think you were trying to accomplish there But it still makes my hair stand on end.  

Secondly. It looks like your pussy will require steps that are about as extreme as I will ever suggest. You may best benefit by always wearing panties. even at home, just to keep from chafing. I think that you are also one of the few women who should not shave completely. I'm a huge fan of a bald pussy, always have been from way back when it was rare and I knew nothing about pussy other than that I thought that it came about as close as anything I'd ever seen to proving that God did exist. But in your case I think that you should have at least have a landing strip so that the hair can protect your sensitive areas as nature intended.

Third. OH MY GOD!!!  I don't think you realize it, but you manage to turn men all over this site on every time you describe why your labia are such a nuisance. That was hot! I know how you feel about this so I'm not going to push. But if you ever do decide to show off. I will be ecstatic to be allowed to have a peek.

XOXO t_d

Haha.... Maybe one day...
Well, i rarely shave bald.. I usually do have a landing strip. However, hair or no hair it gets irritated.. If i do have hair, the hair from my outer labia grows at kind of an angle and pokes my inner labia which obviously hurts.. and if i shave all the time, i get the irration and bumps most women get when the shave too often. I usually shave every 4 or 5 days or so, (except lately bc ive been going to the pool a lot.) My boyfriend really doesnt seem to mind whether im shaved or not, except he does get a little excited when i do shave cus he thinks it means im planning for something... So. i dont really think there is an answer for eliminating pain/irritation. The best option is just t shirt and no pants or panties, which is what im doing now.My main reason for even commenting on here was to dismiss the notion previously suggested in this thread that women are just making up that they have pain and using it as an excuse for labiaplasty when theyre really doing it for cosmetic reasons which is definately not the case ( I dont even intend to have labiaplasty)...

K,

There you go again. That was kinda hot

Now, my wife and I have been dedicated shavers for several years, and we've learned one thing that is very important when it comes to shaving. Short hair is worse than razor rash. I bring this up becuase I think it may be relevant to you. In order for the pubic hair to have the effect I was referring to you'd have to let it grow to full length and it would actually have to grow down and around the vaginal opening. I realize that this could be a pain (literally) for about a week or two, but as big a shaving fan as I am, I'd rather see the labes happy.

XOXO t_d

I see. I definately wont be growing my hair out completely though.. makes me feel even less attractive down there. Plus, it doesnt help with any pinching or irritation.. the hair doesnt grow long enough to cover the edge of my labia. My labia protrude a lot. It would obviously help with the shave bumps,  but, other than that.. not really any other benefits. Thanks for the suggestions though..

k,

well damn, ok that just means we'll just have to mean  that we'll have to keep working on this one.  

As far as growing your hair  out making your Pussy look even more unattractive...that would imply that your Pussy was unattractive to begin with, which I doubt is even possible. But if you insist that it's so I challenge you to put your money where your mouth is, so to speak.(I don't know if you ever will, but I'll never stop trying).

XOXO t_d