thank you!! you're amazing and really helpful!! *kisses* : )
lip_obsessed
July 17, 2008
Ladies, Ladies, Ladies,
I see letters from so many of you
that are so self-conscious about your large labia. Some of you have
written how a lover has been grossed out or made terrible remarks to
you about your lovely labia. First of all this saddens me. I hope
this post will help empower you on how to handle this situation and
turn things around for your self-image.
As many of you
have pointed out, the media has taught us guys (and girls) that a
pussy should be neat and trim, tiny and tucked away. This has been
accomplished through adult magazines mostly. However, in the recent
months or maybe the last year or two, with the exception of the one
book that has an animal as their logo, these magazines have been
showing more and more women with larger labia. That is a good start,
but it will still take some time to retrain all of these guys.
Here is my suggestion, if you are concerned about how
a guy will react this is what I think you should do. First if you are
in the heat of the moment just let it flow, let him see you, feel
you, taste you. If he makes a bad comment about it stop all that is
happening, sit up in bed, don't cover yourself, and state matter of
the factly something to the effect that you understand his surprise
to you being somewhat unique. Then tell him that his penis is like no
other you have ever seen, it isn't bad, it's just different. That may
bring things into perspective for him. Tell him to look at it as he
has more to play with, suck on, and that the longer labia will
massage his dick like he has never known before. Encourage him to
suck on your lips, touch them, feel how soft and erotic they feel. If
he still isn't about it then he just simply isn't mature enough
to be having sex with you in the first place. I am taking it for
granted of course that you take care of yourself down there and keep
everything clean and smelling good.
Second scenario, if you
have been with a guy for a while and have simply been too embarrassed
to allow him to see you there, then sit down and have a talk with
him. Tell him about your insecurities about it and why you are
insecure. Tell him you want to share all of yourself with him and you
want to feel totally comfortable with him when having sex and you
hope he can see your gift for what it is, something special. Tell him
how much you want him to crave sucking on your lips. Have a mature
adult conversation with him about it. I bet money he will come
around. If not, once again, he is simply not mature enough to be
having sex with you in the first place.
As a final note, I
am not a conselor or any sort of licensed therapist, however I have
been told my advice and coaching can be very helpful and influential.
If you would like me to coach you and/or your partner about opening
up about such things please drop me an e-mail. I do not charge for
such services, just something I enjoy doing.
Good luck to
you all, I hope you all find someone that will appreciate your gift!
Alexandra Que
July 20, 2008
thank you!! you're amazing and really helpful!! *kisses* : )
K
July 24, 2008
Just wanted to say thank you for advice.. I know I've heard several women on here talking about how they don't know how to bring it up in a conversation or how to "reveal" themselves to their partner.. and i think you have come up with some really good suggestions ( especially the part where you get them thinking twice about the appearance of their penis haha) Anyway, thanks.
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