My boyfriend (19) called my vag "baggy" :(

I'm sorry to hear that he hurt you so bad, it really was a hurtful thing for him to say.  However, you did tease him too. Have you considered that what you said to him may have been as hurtful to him as what he said was to you?

Hi there,

Sorry to hear that your boyfriend upset you with his comments about your large labia. Most 19 year olds aren't that mature. He's probably very sensitive about his wingnut ears and retaliated with the most obvious 'tease' his little brain could think of. If he was really into large labia he wouldn't insult your stand-out feature with that hurtful comment.  

You should read what glorious and sexy words the men and women on this site use to describe large lips like ours and what esteem they hold them in. What would your 'nice, considerate boyfriend' say if you insulted his penis or his technique?  

It sounds like the two of you can talk and he obviously gave you his reasons for his comments. But you should explain to him that he's knocked your confidence big time about the way you look down there and it will take a while to build it up again. If he's as considerate as you say, he should take your comments on board (and if you're lucky give you the licking of his life). If on the other hand he thinks it's no big deal, (I was only giving back what you gave to me, blah blah) then find someone who appreciates your wonderful assets.  
Good luck.

Have you not thought he may be insecure about his ears? He probably knows your insecurities about your "minge" as he called it and simply gave back what you dished out, however that saying goes!
I used to be insecure about my labia, but if my boyfriend said something about my nose which I hate more than my labia I'd be equally as hurt as him saying something about my labia.
Generally people with larger ears etc, get bullied at school as I witnessed a few years ago, so next time just think about what your saying because he may be equally as hurt.
Just because he's a male doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings!

I want you to know that I just found this web site because I too am insecure with my size.  I am now 38 years old and starting to realize my sexy beauty.   A comment made to me when I was 16 by an old boyfriend has stuck with me ever since.  I never even realized I was on the larger size until he said something very insulting.  If you do anything, I want you to burn what he said out of your mind!!!!  Take it from me, those hurtful words can be haunting and coupled with the way the porn industry uses only certain types of women (unrealistic women) can be very devistating to a young woman such as yourself.  Yes, you insulted him, but if he were really into you and liked every inch of you, that thought would never have crossed his mind. (his hateful words were literally below the belt)  I've been married for 11 years now and my husband who is my best friend thinks I'm a goddess and you deserve the same!!!!

Too many people carry the baggage of their bad experiences.
Tinkerbell is right in saying you deserve to be with someone who adores you BUT it is a two way street.
You cannot put yourself above someone you claim to love and think that when you hurt them they must just shut up and accept that disrespect.  
He should not have made a comment that hurt you but YOU shouldn't have made a comment that hurt him in the first place.

Any relationship takes work and MUTUAL respect. Instead of running here to try and paint your boyfriend as a bad and ugly guy, you should have sat him down and let him know that you didn't appreciate his comments and resolve the situation.  
But EXACTLY like him, you made a gut-reaction and did something not healthy (coming here and bad mouthing him).
You even said how supportive and encouraging he has been.

Plain talk, bad manners: you can't be a jerk and expect to be treated like a goddess.

If she was really into him she wouldn't of insulted him either? it works both ways.
At the end of the day anonymous if it really affected you that much and you're that peeved with him then just finish with him and find someone else.

well just for the record, i didnt just randomly start slagging him off... we were teasing each other first just playing about as you do, and yes i called him stinky ears, but if anyone knows anything about flesh tunnels or spacers or whatever, saying they have stinky ears isnt a very hurtful thing to say as everyone with spacers has stinky ears, and obviously i didnt think he would take it so personally.

i was upset as he said something that hurt my feelings about my own body, and crushed me where i felt most self concious, its not like i was making personal comments about his body or his dick or anything.  

anyway, he's not said anything about it since... but i won't be encouraging him to go down on me or anything anytime soon.

I have to agree with Miss anonymous. Never knew about ear spacers, flesh tunnels or gauges until I read her letter. Apparently they do get really stinky if you don't take rigorously care of them: wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_do_gauged_ears_smell.