Here once again with yet another sex story that will put girls at ease

Shawna

July 14, 2010

So I have been on this site for over a year now, have posted many discussions about my experiences and here I am, back, with yet another!

So I was recently dumped again (story of my life, this time lasted a year) which made me extremely insecure. After the break up I spent a night at his house for closure, no strings attached. But during my stay my ex completely shot me down. He would cuddle me, I had to bug him to kiss me, but he would NOT have break up sex with me. I made it clear that there were no strings attached.. And I had suggested that maybe since we were best friends we just convert to "buddies", but he refused. Which of course made me upset and insecure.

Let me point out now, that we are no longer friends. We no longer talk. We have no relationship. We share our friends. And because of this, our friendships with mutual friends has been strained. I wanted to be friends, I tried, he didn't.

So because of this strain of friendships, I had to find other people to hang out with when my ex was around. I found Mat. A good friend of a buddy in our main circle of friends. We have spent every day together basically since my ex and I broke up. He is from Australia and had never been with a Canadian girl (until now), only British girls and Australian girls. So when I started to find myself attracted to him I worried, because I knew he was attracted to me and really wanted me. So he kept trying and kept trying to get me in bed and I resisted as much as I wanted to. Not because I wasn't over my ex, but because I was afraid he wouldn't like what he found, race to our friends house and tell everyone. I couldn't afford to lose all my friends.

After a couple days of this (it was extremely frustrating to me because of how badly I wanted him) I decided I would mention it. Just a little mention of it. As he talked about how he could please me, I mentioned how I didn't know if he would want to go down on me. That only made him want to prove himself. When he went down on me I was terrified. But it felt so good and he was so willing. We had sex that night but he didn't get to cum (his little brother walked in and the mood was gone.. ya I know great first experience!) so the rest of the night and next day I felt so bad. He told me it didn't bother him one bit but still, I am a giver. I was also feeling self conscious about my downstairs but he assured me there was nothing wrong. I know there is nothing wrong down there, but I was worried that because he is so inexperienced and is from another country things would be different. We have been seeing each other about a week now, only have had sex twice but we have spent a couple nights just hanging out, making out, or cuddling.

We have both agreed not to tell any of our friends, too much drama, although they already assume we are fucking because we spend so much time together and I have stayed at his house, every time we leave we leave together, etc. Whatever, they don't need to KNOW. But I feel like my "buddy" is starting to turn into more. When it first started we were both pretty emotionless about it. "Maybe we will chill maybe we wont but whatever" kind of attitudes. But now he will text me really adorable things or gets excited about us making plans to hang out. He gets paid Thursday and wants to do something, and he is even making plans for the summer and including me into his plans!!!

We are two completely different people when we are alone than when we are with our friends but that's because we have to be. I got off topic, I tend to do that, point being, HE IS AUSTRALIAN AND INEXPERIENCED AND HE STILL DIGS MY DOWNSTAIRS! :) Oh let me also point out he is 18 (19 in 3 weeks) and I am 20. For some reason I always end up with younger guys which is my biggest issue with intimacy.. Immaturity and inexperience worries me.
But there is hope for men, there is always hope!

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Philip

July 14, 2010

Hi Shawna,

So, I have to say - what's the big deal about him being an Aussie...?

People are the same over the whole world...being from Australia ain't gonna change that... I should know - I'm from the even better country next door - it's called New Zealand, & we're pretty normal too... : )

Be happy, don't be scared, but do be prepared to hang on for a great sex life - we Australasians are like that. ; )

I'm sure he digs your beautiful pussy more than you know, & if you give him the chance - he'll show you...

Wish you well babe.

Eric

July 15, 2010

Shawna,

I only have one thing to say about this otherwise EXCELLENT post.

Stop "owning" it -- when you say "such is the story of my life", that becomes your reality, and you'll only experience more things like that.

Anyway babe. . .keep doing what you're doing, and if I were you, I'd do what only feels good to do, because that's how I live my life everyday anyways.

You'd be surprised what can happen -- I don't even know why you resisted Matt for so long.

The universe puts people into your life for a reason -- go with the flow, and stop resisting it, and you'll find your life becomes much easier.

My life is literally a walking, talking testament to what I'm telling you. =0)

- Eric

tempest_driver

July 19, 2010

Shawna,

Congratulations on finding a man who can not only make you feel good about yourself, but just plain good.

I have long felt that Australian men have gotten a bad rap. when I was in the Navy I used th hear all the time about pulling into Australia and finding women fighting over the chance to throw the pussy at the American sailors. It had been explained to me that this was because Australian men were such enormous assholes. In reality though, I discovered that Australian men, and Kiwis too, are as much like american men as you're going to find without actually findng an american. Of course I loved the women down under too, but I felt that the men were reaally victims of stereotyping.

Shawna

July 23, 2010

Yeah... Turns out he lied about his age. He is actually seventeen going on eighteen. I don't know why this bothers me so much. He wants to date me. But I know I am not ready to date yet. I want to continue seeing him but this age thing has really got me confused. I have never been with anyone so much younger than me... I feel shallow saying that too because age shouldn't matter, but it does!!! When I found out his age I called it off for the time being. Plus I want to move and he wants to date I just don't see how it is going to work!! HELP!!

Jessica

July 25, 2010

Shawna,
I don't know what age gap you are talking about. He is almost 18 and you are 20. That is 2 years of age difference or maybe 3. Is that too much?

July 25, 2010

For me, honesty is a huge deal. The fact that he lied would bother me more than the fact that hes 17. He's not exactly starting off on the right foot. Of course, you also have to worry about the fact that hes underage and not a legal consenting adult. I doubt anything would happen legally, but ya never know.. his parents could be psycho and overprotective. Plus you're thinking about moving...If i had to give my opinion, i would say move on and see what else is out there. Whatever you do.. dont let the fact that he was accepting of your pussy make you lean towards him out of fear that the next guy wont be. Im sure there are plenty of mature, honest men out there that would would not only accept but LOVE your pussy.

tempest_driver

July 26, 2010

Shawna,

absolutely the first thing I'd do is chack your local age of consent laws. It may turn out that you are very correct in not wanting to play too much with the boy until he is legally a man.

XOXO t_d

Shawna

October 26, 2010

Oh the age here is 16 so it is fine, also his parents know and absolutely adore me. But I called it off with him. The whole lying of his age thing was too much. I do prefer younger guys but the honest ones. Oh well! :)

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