help please

Confused,

You have no idea how sexy your pussy sounds. The fact that your labia make a noticeable lump in your bikinis is a HUGE turn on for me.

It really is a shame that your lone sexual experience was a drunken grope, but the fact that he went down on you should let you know that there's nothing wrong with your labia.

On the subject of your discomfort. There has been some discussion on this subject. In these discussions it has been suggested that a change in panty materials, or even a decision to wear them may help. I have even suggested wearing clothing that fits differently against your pussy, like jeans that aren't so tight. If that fails you could always forego the clean shave. Being a shaver myself, married to a shaver, I am a HUGE fan of a smooth pussy, but Iam a bigger fan of a happy pussy. Body hair is a natural protection of tha body's sensitive areas, if its removal allows those areas to become chafed, pinched, or pulled, then perhaps it should be allowed to grow.

I am  a bit unusual at this site because I actually recognize that there are times when labiaplasty are appropriare. But only for reconstructive purposes, not for appearance or convenience. Every effort should be made to alleviate the discomfort before surgery is esen considered as an option. Not only will you essentially be cutting thi wings off of your butterfly, but Ihave heard from several women who've gone there and regretted it, but I haven't heard from one who has been happy with the results. And once you've gone there, you can't come back.

XOXOt_d

Hey :)
Like you, I had low self esteem because of my labia, but have never experienced discomfort with them.
Since meeting my partner and upon visiting this site I have become very comfortable within myself because I'm aware I'm normal and that their are lots of women like me of different shapes, sizes, ethnicity etc.
As far as bikinis are concerned, you can buy the ones that have material over the bottoms like frilly material if you get what I mean? I forget what they're called lol :S but they cover you anyways and they're very cute and girly if you buy the right ones.
When it comes to sexual experiences you just have to wait for the right guy it's as simple as that, get to know eachother before you have sex, that's what me and my partner did and by the time we did have sex we was completely in love because we waited and got to know eachother. He honestly doesn't give a crap about the size of my labia, in most cases it's only little immature teenage boys that care, and even some of them probably love it but are too scared too admit it!
On the surgery subject, don't do it! I thought about it for a while when I was unhappy and looking back I was such an idiot, I couldn't stand having no labia at all, it's great being unique and also you can lose sexual feeling after the surgery and imagine that.
I hope I've helped you feel a bit better and if you ever wanna talk you only have to ask for my email address :)

The lump in your bikini makes you masculine? huh?
Then I wonder why anyone hasn't called me a man after so many years of showing off my lump in bikinis. lol

Hey, i feel the same as you. Im turning 21 soon, and have only eva had 2 drunken  sexual experiences, because i am embarrased. I think all the woman on this site you embrase thierr labia are really brave, and since finding this site afew weeks back, i have felt a little better about myself, still not quite at the point wer i would feel comfortable letting somebody see them tho :( and it has been a real downer for me over the years, as i havnt been able to have a relationship. Its nice to no there are huys out there who like them tho. But im hoping this site is going to help me get the confidence to just love myself and my body, i hope it does the same for you xx

Confused & Lisa,

The most important thing to remember is that Pussy, regardless of shape, size, or color, is beautiful. I personally prefer big, thick, dark butterfly shaped labia. But neither I or any other man at this site  would turn down any pussy based on whether or not it was my ideal. We would dive in, lick and suck until we were forced to stop, and be truly thankful for the opportunity. Any man who wouldn't is either gay, or just stupid.

But that's just my opinion.

XOXO t_d

thanks for the replies. lisa, it's such a relief to know you feel the same as me, although it's horrible that you've had to suffer the same as well. i'm 21 so i know how hard it is to have not yet had a relationship when pretty much all your mates have and i hope you have some luck soon! in reply to jessica, there was no need to put a sarcastic comment. i'm obviously very insecure about this and it's obvious what i meant - men are meant to have a prominent lump in their swimwear, women aren't. simple as that. obviously it's nowhere near as big as a man's but it still makes me feel masculine. and of course no one's going to call you a man. lucky for you yours doesn't bother you. maybe it is a turn on for some guys but i don't want it to be noticed, especially not by my friends, and that's the point. jess, i'm glad you managed to become comfortable with yourself and found a decent partner. i just hope that will happen for me someday as i hate feeling different and it really upsets me. i still haven't made up my mind about what i'm going to do but i think it's at least worth going to see someone about it to help me make my decision. thanks for your support. xx