he willingly tongues my ass but not my pussy :(

Hi Mz Kink!

I think it's brilliant that you've spoken to your boyfriend about this. Getting cunnilingus is about one of the most important things on earth in my opinion!

My first boyfriend was similar. It's inexperience. He's only going to get used to it and love it if he does it often. I also complained to my big sister when I was 17 and her advice to me was this...." Oh for God's sakes, just sit on his face!!" Simple as that and it worked. No way should he be getting blowjobs all the time if you're not getting any tongue work! A lot of men are just too lazy and selfish.  No blowjobs for awhile usually encourages them to be a bit more giving.

Lady,

The very thought of what you're going through is completely alien to me, you sound like you have a mouth-watering pussy, and a body that'll melt steel. So why is it that you aren't complaining that he's eating you out too much? A few Ideas come to mind.

1. He's become sexually repressed by an upbringing that has taughy him that sex is dirty and just for having babies, and you're not supposed to be enjoying it. Of course he does like it though, or you wouldn't be getting any sex at all. This will lead to a lot of confysion for him until he gets older and learns to think for himself. And when that happens, you will really start to figure out what he's all about.

2. He's young, and not as experienced as he'd like to be. Maybe he doesn't think he's all that good and he's afraid to admit it. If this is the case he won't be going bown on anyone any time soon because this is something that one can only improve at through practice. I could draw out the whole viscious circle, but I think you get my point.

3.   He could be a taker. Most people need a little give and take in their lives. Some people feel completely fulfilled and happy giving their lives. Still others are takers. they never give unless forced, and then they're miserable doing it.

4. He's in the closet. And don't say he can't be gay because he's doing you, that kind of goes along with being in the closet.

You say that you're not going to leave him over this, and yet here we are. Just the fact that you've written in about this indicates a form of desparation. You're very unhappy here, either he's going to start going down on you, or you'll find someone who will.

You're first going to have to find out why he won't do it and go from there. I'm not a big fan of sexual warfare, but he may need an ultimatum. Either he goes down on you, or he gets nothing

Or maybe not,  

Just my opinion I could be wrong.

t_d

Thank you for your replys guys :)
Amanda, as much as i would love to, i could not just sit on his face, lol, he would NOT be impressed hehe!! ..if only i was brave enough..
I appreciate your lengthy reply t_d.. i think it may mainly be becuase of options 2&3 (Im praying it's not 4! lol) But then i question why he likes rimming me so much?? He is a big giver when it comes to that :s when he first started rimming me and wanting to do anal, i must admit, i did question his sexuality as he had never even touched my pussy at that time! ..He was jus all about my arse.
I have said that if he's not going to pleasure me in the way i want i will find somebody that will..he was not best pleased with hearing that. It's weird because recently i have had about 7 men randomly ask to "eat me out" since i threatened my boyfriend. I feel like i am being tested. I JUST WANT TO FEEL GOOD AGAIN :(

would love to hear more advice xxx

Hi Ladylonglips
All i can add is, he will end up to be the biggest loser.If he does not come to the party after tasting your pussy once then i have no hope for him.

Lady,

he fact that he's into your ass in and of itself doesn't raise any flags for me, I'll bet your ass is truly a sight to behold. I dig assplay myself and will often spend a great deal of time paying homage to my wife's luscious posterior. That said, it would be wrong, on the level of oytright heresy to neglect her pussy.  

In the end, you need to be happy. If you've already issued the ultimatum then the ball's in his court, he'll either comply or he won't. The path you take from there is up to you. Personally, I think I'd walk.

XOXO t_d

P.S. Ooh I just had a fun thought!

What if he's submissive and secretly NEEDS a woman who'll sit on his face and make him pkease her? Wouldn't that be fun?

What you got to do girl is sit on the mother-truckers face.
When the dude asleep. Plop yo big pussy down on his face and say. "EAT! Mother-trucker. Eat that pussy or you gonna die.
And keep away from my ass, do you hear?  You eat that pussy and you eat it good. That right mother-trucker, eat that pussy and eat it good. Go on mother-trucker-EAT!

Mz Kink,

I would've said a bunch of stuff, but if you haven't figured this out by now, Tempest and I share a brain.

He usually says the stuff I would say, and vice versa -- that said, there's nothing I can add except for the following:

Don't be with a man simply because you love him.  If he's not pleasing you the right way, that love will become disdain eventually.

So you have two choices as I see it:

1) Train him. . .

2) Take up one those random guys on their offer, and then go back and tell him about it.

While option 2 might not sound like the best approach, you'd be surprised how he might be able to turn his disappointment for you turning to someone else into a learning experience.

In the prior scenario though, I find that a woman can be most persuasive when she wants to be -- that said, have you tried the "lust" technique?

Strip down in front of him, and tell him he can't touch you, and then please YOURSELF in front of him, let him see how good your pussy looks, and how wet it gets -- make sure he has a VERY good view (perhaps you can lay on the bed, while he sits in a chair by the bed watching).

If that doesn't get his mouth-watering, he's probably gay like tempest suggested, or has some really fucked up childhood issues.

Of course, I'm kidding when I say that. . .but in reality, any man that is strongly sexual will not be able to resist the site of a woman playing with her pussy in front of him without wanting to touch it and/or lick it.  Guys can I get an amen on that?!?

Either way, lemme know how it turns out. . .

- Eric

AMEN on that one brother!