hellooo

K, it's an equal pleasure to know that you continue to keep up with the letters here, and in particular to see you comment and try to assist those women who have not yet accepted the truth of the matter, that their labia are a real gift, one which will give them the greatest joy and pleasure, if they will only accept them as being beautiful.

You are most welcome my dear.

Mr"S"  xxx

It is with the greatest pleasure that we write in to this site to help. ladies such as yourself  regain your self confidence, and learn to love your pussies. I for one am obsessed with pussies in general, and large labia in particular, and every woman who decides not to butcher those beautiful labes as a result of visiting this site is a victory.

Hi K
I agree. I have experienced such a huge transformation in my self esteem since I first discovered this web site half year ago. This is a lot due to the people who take their time to write here. When I for some reason don't have time to visit this web site for a while I really look forward to visit it again and read all the new letters and answers.

Hey K,

You know we love you too sugar! =0)

I've seen your responses over the while too, and I think you my dear have come a long (and done well) way in regards to how you see yourself.

It seems like now you know you're sexy, and you sort of exude that when you talk now (for the most part). . .now if we could just get you to squirt. . .

- Eric

Still trying lol..... The other day i didnt hold back or try to contract the muscles that stop the flow of urine, but i think i had the wrong approach.... i kind of pushed a little thinking it would push out..I didnt squirt, but i didnt pee on him either lol... so at least i wont worry as much about that in the future. I  read somewhere online that you're supposed to just relax, not push or hold back.. so i'll try that next... I'll let ya know...  

And Eric, i wish i could say that i know im sexy or that im confident in myself but im really not. Im confident when talking to you guys because i know you like what i have... in the real world... i always have to wonder what a guy would think, or i doubt them when they do compliment me.... My boyfriend compliments my body all the time, and it must help somewhat bc ive been naked around him alot more than other guys.. but the thought NEVER leaves my mind.. and i know that he doesnt like the appearance of my pussy bc of comments he's made that he probably didnt even realize hurt me... But.. like ive stated in my very first letter in Nov 2007, the depression and shame i have over this is deeply rooted in me and it will take lots and lots of time and encouragement to overcome, if i ever do.....

K,

Still trying lol..... The other day i didnt hold back or try to contract the muscles that stop the flow of urine, but i think i had the wrong approach.... i kind of pushed a little thinking it would push out..I didnt squirt, but i didnt pee on him either lol... so at least i wont worry as much about that in the future. I  read somewhere online that you're supposed to just relax, not push or hold back.. so i'll try that next... I'll let ya know...  

** I got a surprise for you. . .remember that video that you were trying to find on Youtube about squirting??  Well, I got my hands on the FULL version of it!  As we speak I'm uploading it to one of my server's so that you can get your hands (or should I say pussy) on it.  Keep an eye on this post, your "squirt" post and October's letters.  I'll post it in all 3 places for you, so that you don't miss it.  The guy is like all professional about it.  It's amazing, and the chick??  Wow!  She squirted like a pro.  He does mention some shit later on in the video that's a bit "questionable" (talks about "ass dimples" and how they correlate to a woman's sex drive or some stupid shit like that, which is absolutely ridiculous, and erroneous, but other than that, the video is solid material -- and don't get me wrong, I absolutely LOVE chicks who have "ass dimples" -- I think they are wickedly sexy!)  Here's some examples of "Ass Dimples" for whoever doesn't know what they are:

http://galleries.eveangel.com/images/000110/image_0014.jpg

http://www.youngmodelz.com/galleries/2007/8/sexy-teen-ambra/sexy-t en-ambra-001.php

http://www.youngmodelz.com/galleries/2007/8/sexy-teen-ambra/sexy-t en-ambra-011.php

If these two chicks get any hotter, I swear they'll burst into flames!  I have a tendency to like the first one better because she looks "raunchier" and I like it when a women is highly sexual like that -- if there is such a thing that can be determined by that photo (silly me).

Notice the little "dimples" right above the ass??  Those are "Ass Dimples" and they are fucking SEXY as hell! =0)

And Eric, i wish i could say that i know im sexy or that im confident in myself but im really not. Im confident when talking to you guys because i know you like what i have... in the real world...

** Baby. . .this IS the real world.  I am a real man, like the other men on here, and I've said on quite a few occasions ". . .pussy is pussy is pussy."  I mean what does yours look like??  You haven't sent anyone pics (that I know of anyway), yet you insist on believing that your pussy only looks good to us men on this site??  C'mon K. . .you gotta do better than that babe!  If you're pussy has one green lip, and one red lip, and your clit was big and red and stuck out when it's licked or fucked. . .then I'd just lick and fuck it to the tune of "Jingle Bell Rock" and call it a "Christmas Pussy", and pet it like Rudolph when I was done!  Seriously. . .give yourself a little more credit honey.  98% of the women on the planet have a pussy that looks like yours.  End of story.  The other 2% are porn stars, FGC survivors, post-labiaplasty patients or were just born that way.

i always have to wonder what a guy would think, or i doubt them when they do compliment me....

** Well. .. I'm a guy.  And I'm normal.  If you consider a 30 year old black male, married to a sexy 26 year old latin woman who's horny ALL the time (literally) just like me, earning a 6 figure income each year, living in a nice 5,000 Square Foot house, driving a nice import car "normal", then I guess I'm normal.  And I've complimented you, and I haven't even seen your pussy!  So what is there to doubt??  If you "doubt" because I haven't seen it, then send me a pic of it!  Trust me, my mind wouldn't change (and you know I'm honest as shit and would tell you if my mind did change. . .but as you know. . .I haven't seen a pussy I didn't like in my life).  I've complimented your personality, which is much more than than you can probably say for most of the men you've been with if you think about it.  Your pussy would probably just be icing on the cake as far as I'm concerned and most of the men on this site I'm sure.  And I will kindly wait until you're confident enough to send me (and maybe some of the other guys) a picture of it.

My boyfriend compliments my body all the time, and it must help somewhat bc ive been naked around him alot more than other guys..

** Well, then. . .that's a perfect example I think!

but the thought NEVER leaves my mind.. and i know that he doesnt like the appearance of my pussy bc of comments he's made that he probably didnt even realize hurt me...

** What??!?  Well then fuck him then (not literally, I mean in the offensive way)!  You know you can do better than that.  Either that, or tell him how you feel.  Tell him that he's pissing you off, and that you're "this close" (make a little space between your index finger and your thumb to demonstrate to him) to banning him from your pussy until he learns to have some more respect for it (and maybe you could make fun of his dick too in the meantime, and see how he feels about that!)

But.. like ive stated in my very first letter in Nov 2007, the depression and shame i have over this is deeply rooted in me and it will take lots and lots of time and encouragement to overcome, if i ever do.....  

** Wow, you've been on this site since 2007??  It's been awhile hasn't it.  We've all been here awhile.  Amazing.  I feel like we've developed a little community here.  I'm looking forward to the Sexy Labia family reunion.  BBQ, beer, and pussy everywhere!  What more could a man ask for?!?  As far as encouragement goes K, I'm sure I speak for most of the men on this site when I tell ya. . .we're here for you sugar.  Even if it takes forever to convince you, maybe I'll be the 90-year old bastard on this site complimenting and encouraging "J" because I'll be too senile to remember "K". =0)

Much love babe. . .look for another message for me soon with the video I promised you!

K,

Okay babe!

I got that surprise ready for you. . .

Squirting Tutorial Video that got removed from Youtube: msg2614_squirting-tutorial video.htm

k,

So happy to hear you're trying to let it go. you'll eventually get there, then it'll get easier each time until it's as natural as breathing.

Sorry to hear that you still have issues about your pussy, the offer to give our opinions free of charge is still out there. your feelings about your boyfriend's comments won't go away until you talk to him about them. Just tell him that he said somethings a long time ago that still really hurt. If he loves you he should be open to talking through this with you. I'd like to say that it must have been a huge misunderstanding. I hope it is.

Keep writing in about this, we'd love to keep up on your progress.

Well, it certainly wasnt a misunderstanding , but he didnt deliberately say anything negative about MY vulva in particular.. just about large labia in general... The first thing he did that hurt me was, he was talking about how he had seen a porn type video and how some of the women had "nasty, flappy.. just..... gross"  is how he explained it.. and this was before he knew about me.. and i just thought to myself Why does this have to happen??? Bc i had a strong connection with him and didnt want something so stupid to have to come between us... Then, also before we ever even did anything sexual.. one night, he was like  "i just know you have a nice, neat little pussy.. i KNOW it!... I think he thought that because im petite that my labia would be too.... Then... this is the thing thats almost more offensive cus it was after he had seen me, touched me, sucked me.. etc.... and after i had vaguely told him that im insecure about it... he points to some chick in a porno and tells me that shes got the "perfect pussy"... and this chick looked NOTHING like me.... she had a perfect little tiny labia..... NOW, on the other hand ... hes also told me that i have a hot pussy, he compliments my body all the time and told me that there are tons of hot porn stars out there with pussies like mine...  So.... I dont know what to think.. one second i'll think he doesnt mind it and the next i think he does.. But its been made pretty clear to me that he certainly doesnt PREFER it.. sooooooo that kind of sucks for me... but.. thats life.. what can i do about it?

K,

That's fucked up. . .

If he compliments you, yet says in the same sentence that he thinks some broad who has a pussy that looks NOTHING like yours has the "perfect pussy" (is there such a thing). . .I think he needs to be more tactful in how he says things.

Especially if you've let him know this is a "sore" spot for you.

Just my 3 cents. . .

- Eric

At the risk of sounding like an jerk.

your boyfriend sounds like a complete asshole.

He seems to be showing you both of his faces here. on one hand he prefers the "little girl" style of pussy. and has even told you that everything else is gross.
then he turns around and compliments you enough to be able to be allowed into your bed?

You deserve a real man, not this little boy.
If you dumped him today,(which I believe you should have done before he got a chance to enjoy your glorious pussy) he'd be be dating his right hand for a very long time.
And I guarantee you could move right on to someone who recognized a true treasure when he saw it and treated you right if you wanted to.

I know you didn't want something like this to come between the two of you, but it obviously has. And this is your confidence and self respect we're talking about, it's not stupid.

My advice is to let him go find his "perfect little pussy", and get you a man who wants to make lunch out of yours.

Of course that's just my opinion. But I doubt you'll see a different one here.

K ,
The guy is a user . Give him a flick .....there are so many "wrong comments" ......he is very immature and to be blank ....looking for someone to use as a sex submissive....not a lover

I see where everyone is coming from.. but in his defense, all but one of the comments he made was before he knew about me. The only thing he said after knowing was about the chick with the "perfect pussy", and i think he was trying to see if i agreed cus he knows im very attracted to girls and was trying to get my opinion... but i just looked at him and said i didnt feel like watching porn.... He does tell me every day that im beautiful, sexy, gorgeous, hot, intelligent, amazing, etc... and hes told me a couple times that he would never change anything about me.. .....  ive never had anybody tell me things like that on such a regular basis, and it really feels good.... And i can tell by the way he looks at me, and treats me that he's sincere and that there's true feelings there.....I know you're all thinking.. "Then what are you worried about if he thinks you're hot anyway?" The problem is, i just wish that he was attracted to me partially BECAUSE of my pussy, not DESPITE my pussy..... And i cant get mad at the man for liking a certain type of pussy... we're all entitled to our own opinions and you cant help what you are or aren't attracted to .. to be honest, if i were a guy, i would prefer the small ones too :/  I appreciate everyone's honest opinions and i do see where you're coming from.. but i didnt mean to make my boyfriend out to be some kind of self-esteem basher.. like ive said before, my issues lie with me, and my way of thinking.... and im working on it...

Does he know how much his comments hurt you?

Has he EVER apologized for those comments?

Has he EVER told you that he loves your pussy and doesn't want you to change it?

Unless the answers to all three questions is an emphatic YES! I really don't see my opinion of him changing much.

I could be wrong here, but it seems to me that he bears at least part of the blame for your self esteem issues. and until that is corrected he will very likely be treated with open hostility here.

No, he hasnt apologized bc i havent let him know that those comments bothered me... i prefer to not draw attention to it.. And yea he's told me before, when i asked him if he thought i should get breast implants, that he thinks im perfect and wouldnt change anything about me... But of course, i doubt him.

I'm sure you are perfect and beautiful just the way you are. the issue is that you still have an issue with your self image. And the fact that comments were made out of ignorance that still hurt you. and still bother you. If they didn't you would not have brought them up in the first place.  

It is likely that the pain will fade in another several years, or not. Or you can get it out in the open and over with. and until you do it.s very likely that you will continue to doubt his sincerity every time he compliments you. This doesn't sound like it will ever be a strong relationship if you see any future with this man until you can trust him implicitly.