I am so very glad that you have written, and shared your experience. Far too many women, particularly younger women, are afraid that there's something wrong with them if they have large labia. In fact, those large labia are a true gift, a blessing. How interesting to find that in your own case, you didn't realize they were large, and your friend didn't realize he liked large ones. I want to second the motion made by Labi that you check out the sister site, www.sexylabia.net and submit your photos and join us. You'll find it's a wonderful, supportive, open group.