Don't put a lot of faith in the judgement of young, adolescent boys who don't have any experience. You will come to realize that your larger clit and labia are a true gift, something to be valued and treasured. Your sexual experiences so early in life are experimental, trial and error. The same is true of your partners. Have you ever asked one of them to give you oral attention?? Maybe they're just afraid to ask you if it's OK, or if it's something you would want. They want to seem as if they know it all, when in fact they know very little. Lead them gently to what you want them to do for you. If someone happens to be rude enough to make some disparaging remark, just know that they simply don't know what they're talking about. More mature men will absolutely LOVE what you have to offer. All you need to do is read some of the letters here to discover what a true gift you have.