Are my big labia lips unattractive?

Dear Sixteen,

Don't put a lot of faith in the judgement of young, adolescent boys who don't have any experience.  You will come to realize that your larger clit and labia are a true gift, something to be valued and treasured.  Your sexual experiences so early in life are experimental, trial and error.  The same is true of your partners.  Have you ever asked one of them to give you oral attention??  Maybe they're just afraid to ask you if it's OK, or if it's something you would want.  They want to seem as if they know it all, when in fact they know very little.  Lead them gently to what you want them to do for you.  If someone happens to be rude enough to make some disparaging remark, just know that they simply don't know what they're talking about.  More mature men will absolutely LOVE what you have to offer.  All you need to do is read some of the letters here to discover what a true gift you have.

Sixteen,
From my standpoint, the problem here is definitely NOT your clit or labia, they actually seem quite amazing, and someday they'll make some lucky man very happy.
No, I rather think your problem is that you're fucking boys. Most teenage boys have only just figured out what to do with their own dick, and have even  less idea what to do with a pussy, and will quite honestly fuck any girl that lets them.
And the best thing to do with boys like that is to not let them.

I mean, honestly, are you even having that much fun? Why are you giving up the ass so easily? make them work for it. and believe me, they WILL work for it.

A real man doesn't stick it in until he's gotten his woman off at least once. If you tell yourself that you deserve better. Make the decision never to settle for fucking boys. And let it be known that if he wants in your cunny he'll have to prove  he deserves it first.

In the mean time you'll also have to be able to prove you're worth the effort. Do a little research and learn what it takes to please a man and make him want more. And develop a connecion with that beautiful pussy of yours. Get a mirror out and use it to really get a good look at yourself. Open it up move things around. Even masturbate as you watch, paying close attention to how your pussy becomes moist, changes color, and becomes puffy as your arousal increases.
 
This is what men see when they go down on you. most men will love the sight. The rest aren't even worth your time.

From a woman's standpoint, I agree whole heartedly with what TheMarquis and tempest_driver stated.

Guys at that age only know this simple equation: penis+vagina*5 good pumps= his quick orgasm. They lack the maturity or interest to include the person they are having relations with into that lovely equation. Plus at that age they just can't hold out. I'll never forget my Junior Year of High School when one of my class mates were complaining in the hallway. She said, "He only lasted fucking 4 minutes."

Well, I don't how much of a guru in bed he is you're definitely not gaining anything in 4 minutes, but a sticky mess to clean up.

Before you can allow others to love you, you have to love yourself first. It's your job to find what makes you irresistible to the opposite sex, and why the treasure in between your legs isn't for every shlong that comes knocking.

The first step into doing so is to get over your fear of masturbation. It's natural, pleasurable, and an uplifting experience.

Hey I would love to talk to you. Your beautiful. Don't listen to young boys.