Young with a BIG problem. Help?

I'm a 19 year old and I have loved large labia since I was younger than 16. Most guys that age will be glad to just be getting some! But don't have sex or fool around like that if you think you're not ready, don't be pressured into it by anyone, that's your, and your decision alone .

Dear YoungandBIG,

Take your time, there is no rush for anything.  Learn more about your body first, in any event.  Most men, including young men, simply love your gentials, whatever shape they happen to be.  The same is true of young women and adolescents.  Check out the previous comments here, and you'll see that you are perfectly normal, perfectly beautiful.  Accept yourself, and your beauty as you are before moving on to anything further.  Read and learn.  Educate yourself.  Then use a mirror and learn how to enjoy your body.  Watch it's beauty carefully, as you become excited, and see how your body reacts.

Hi YoungandBIG. I am also 16, and as you can tell I am a guy. I have been visiting this site for about half a year and find that as long as the girl is happy with her labia, I am too! Like NADH said, most guys our age will just be happy to be getting any, so don't worry.  Also, although i doubt he will, if your partner does happen to say anything to his friends you will just know he isn't the right guy to be with, tell him beforehand that you are a little insecure, and if he is half decent he will accept you. Hope this helped, good luck!

Young,
I think it's amazing that some of the first responses you got were from men in your age group. I said men because despite their age, their answers show remarkable maturity, and their answers were spot on.  
I would like to ask you though...have you ever really given your vagina a really good look? I ask this because in my experience the answer is almost always no. Go get a mirror, and use it to get a real good look at every inch of yourself, open things up, move things around, check out every nook and cranny of what is actually a pretty complex, and beaitiful part of womens' bodies. And remember, this is what guys see when they go down on girls, and it is that sight that make most of us love it so much.

Hey YoungandBig,

Trust me, I am familiar with feeling a bit out of the circle when it comes to my large labia. I was never ashamed of them, but I always wondered in the back of my mind, "Do other girls have a bump in their underwear." Well, I learned quickly that trying to catch a peak in the girl's locker wasn't going to solve my real issue.

Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes, literally. So it only makes sense for some women to have inexistent, to peaking, to large labia.

Countless men find large labia attractive, even just by sight through a picture, or up close and personal. Down the line as the dating scene progresses, men do have their preferences, but in the long run, as a crass old gal once told me, "Men are Pigs!". Therefore they'll go for just about anything as long as they say they scored, popped the cherry, the list goes on. You've got nothing to worry about. In the long run, anyway man will be satisfied if a woman allows him even near her private area.

Like, tempest_driver stated, if you're still unfamiliar and unsure of your body, ween off men for a bit and boost your confidence. Nothing is more attractive than a woman who knows that she's got something going on, that men will most likely want. Right now I've been going through a boyfriend hiatus just to get to know the "Real Erika". It's quite liberating, if I'm honest. I'm much more playful and add a little pep in my step.

Also get a hand mirror and really look at yourself down there. Familiarize yourself with what makes you, you; and tell yourself, I'm beautiful and wanted. When you wake up early for class and head into the bathroom, before you start your morning routine get a good look at yourself in the mirror. See yourself as "Name Inserted" without make up and a clear head.

There's no rush to have sex, no age limit, zip nada nothing. It's all your decision. You set the pace in the relationship and how you want to be treated. You're the one with the magic every guy is after, so cherish it, respect it, and love it. Who cares if you're the only Junior or Sophmore who hasn't had sex yet? Between you and I, guys have no clue what they're doing at that age. All you're going to get is a good quick painful humps and hear him grunt. Not the most memorable first time.

You can be 19 and ready or 31 and still trying to grasp yourself, it all comes down to the saying, "In order to love others you must love yourself first."



Sincerely,

A Girl Whose Had Her Journeys

Erika

Heyyy! im 16 too. I also hate my labia which is very long and darkened. I know exactly how you feel. I'm beginning to think that maybe a lot of girls are the same as us and we're not alone, we just worry more. We just have to learn to accept what we've got. If me or you find a guy who loves us, I guess they accept whatever we have. :)