Having sex my Girlfriend for the first time!!!

Jonathan,

From your post, I gather that this will be your, and possibly her first time with anyone. If this is the case, the experience can easily turn into something you'd rather forget, by following a few simple rules though, it can be a great memory.

Be yourselves.
You're nervous, that's normal, she probably is too. Trying to be cool will most likely make you look like a jackass. Being yourself is always the best policy, it may even make her feel better to know that you're nervous too. And if you're so nervous that you stumble all over yourself you may need to slow down, or even back up a bit.

It doesn't have to happen tonight.
Go slow and don't force things. If you can't both relax you won't have a good time. If she's not ready, be a gentleman, treat her like you always have even though inside you want to scream. Once you get home you can jerk off, you'll get another chance, and she'll appreciate your patience  and understanding.

Make this about her.
Rest assured, you'll get yours, the same can't be said for your girlfriend. Always make sure she's ready for you first, and don't ever give up until your lover cums too...at least once.

Foreplay foreplay foreplay.
It really is important. Spend a lot of time on this, treat the actual sex as an afterthought. And never kiss her pussy harder than you'd kiss her mouth.

Wrap it!
It would really suck if you got your girlfriend pregnant. Plus wearing a rubber will make you last longer.

Your buddies don't need to know shit!
Bragging to your friends might make you feel like a stud, but it'll make her look, sound, and probably feel cheap. Experience has taught me that your friends WILL hear about it...if they're friends with her friends. And if it gets back that you've already told your friends it will likely end badly. Yes it's a double standard. That's just the way it is. In addition, her friends will also most likely get a full account of your performance, so that's another incentive to be good to her. Luckily though, women can be very forgiving if you treat them right. So if you're trying to please her, but fail at it, you're still likely to get a good report.  

Good luck jonathan

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Jonathon,

Wow. . .I remember my first time! LOL!

Anyway, listen dude, you can't do anything wrong so don't worry.

Do yourself a favor, and lick her pussy.

Take your time, and do it right (you'll know you're doing it right by how she responds to you).

She may stay quiet, but that's okay as she may be uncomfortable with being vocal as some women are like that -- but watch for the hips, if she's grinding them into your face, or you feel her legs twitching (you should have your arms wrapped around them while your lick her pussy, so you can feel what's going on), you're on the right track! =0)

When she finally cums (tell her it's okay, and that you want her to cum, and you'll take your time until she does -- otherwise she may not feel comfortable with having an orgasm in front of you).

Realistically, it should take her around 5-10 minutes to cum if you do it properly (but some women take longer, or cum quicker, so don't let that be a reason not to do it, or to take more time).

Lick her clit first, and if starts to push your head back, try licking it slower, or with less pressure from your tongue (it means it's too "intense" for her) -- lick around her pussy, inside her pussy, suck on her lips -- REALLY taste her and get into it.  Enjoy her smell, enjoy her movements, her moans, everything.

By the time she cums, your dick should be hard as a rock (mine is by this point), and then you'll want to just push your cock in slowly to see if she can take the whole thing (some women can't), and if she can, take your time going slow on each stroke until her pussy makes your cock nice and slippery (and it feels incredibly awesome too!).

Then you can go faster, but not too fast.. ..just enough where you can feel her cervix against the tip of your cock, but be follow her direction for the most part, if she says "faster" than pound her pussy really good, if she says harder it means she wants more "impact", not necessarily speed.  This means that you should pound her pussy hard on each down stroke, and slid out slowly (you'll last longer that way too).

Decide in advance if you'll use protection and if you don't plan to, where you will cum when the time comes -- if she's on birth control, she may tell you it's okay to cum inside her, but since you're both 18, I don't know if that's necessarily a good idea, since accidents can happen.

But, if she's not, or tells you not to cum inside her, then decide in advance where you'll cum (ask her -- sometimes women are kinky and want you to cum on their face, breasts, etc).

Any by all means man. . .PULL THE FUCK OUT, do not cum inside her if that wasn't the plan, no matter how good it feels.

Positions you should try would include (you can ask her too what feels best too as you try each position):

1) You on top of her (missionary), you can start with this after you've made her cum by licking her -- it's a good transition, since she'll more than likely be ready for you anyway, and seeing your hard dick should excite her enough to not want to move from the position she's in.

2) Her on top of you (cowgirl), this gives her control over speed, and depth of penetration, and gives you the pleasure of seeing her gorgeous tits bouncing in your face and watching her curves, and her pussy slide up and down on your cock.  You can vary this a little by having her stand on her feet (like in a squatting position), and having her just move her hips up and down on your dick (you will be in ecstasy when she does this, but her legs will end up hurting after awhile, so enjoy it while you can).

3) Rear Entry (Doggy Style), this is the all time best position ever (in my humble opinion) and will allow you pound her pussy into hamburger meat, and really hit the "bottom" of her pussy really good, but do be careful, because sometimes it will hurt her if you're not careful (listen to her cues).  You can vary this slightly too, by having her close her legs while you open your own legs further (this increases the "tightness" of her pussy and makes penetration incredible).

Overall. . .enjoy yourself.  Don't be nervous, you can't fuck anything up, unless you don't listen to her and do something she doesn't like or cause her pain in any way.  Other than that, you'll be fine buddy.

Oh yeah, and cut your finger nails low (she may ask you to finger her while you lick her pussy and you don't need to cut her pussy or make it raw with long finger nails), take a REALLY good shower (if she decides to suck your dick, you want to smell good so that she enjoys sucking your dick as much as you enjoy getting your dick sucked), and above all learn to multi-task (she may want you to play with her nipples while you lick her pussy and finger her at the same time).

Last piece of advice -- don't buy any over-the-counter bullshit that promises to improve you how fuck her.

The best aphrodisiac you will have is her naked body, if that doesn't make your dick hard as a rock, I can guarantee you that watching her cum while you're licking her pussy will DEFINITELY make your dick hard as a rock.

Over-the-counter crap just kills the moment, and sometimes doesn't have the effect you intended (like leaving a bad taste in her mouth when she sucks your cock).

Just lick her good, listen to her cues (or directions she may give you) and the rest will come to you -- remember this is instinctual my friend -- we're still animals to a degree. =0)

One thing I failed to mention Jonathan. Listen to her. Pay attentionto what she's saying, and to what her body's telling you.  

If she's moaning and squirming, you're doing good. If she's tense, she's not comfortable, or doesn't like what's happening. You need to either slow down or stop doing something completely. Just listen to her, she'll let you ,know to stop, slow down, or keep going.

Of course she may be tense because she's cumming, but if that's the case, you'll know...proceed.

And for god's sake, if she's enjoying what you're doing to her...keep going until she says to stop. That's probably one of the biggest complaints I've heard from women about men sexually. We don't keep doing enough of the things they like, for long enough, often enough. So if you do something and she says "oh yeah!" Do it again, and keep it up until your tongue fallsaoff. Or she drags you out by your hair.

And complement her. Tell her her body, pussy, ass, tits, etc. are pretty. Women like to hear that and for some reason we don't say it enough when we're young.

Hey Jonathan!

Well you've already been given A-list tips from the guys, but here's a little something from a woman's point of view.

You know that little phrase women sometimes say during sex? For example, "Stop!". Somehow through the telephone line males have come to think that that means-keeping going. It definitely does not!

If she says stop you're either:

A. Hurting Her
B. Scaring Her
C. Stimulating her too much for her to handle

Fingering/Oral

Now, option C may seem pretty intense and make you puff up your chest, but you want your first time to be expanded. Women can't bounce back as quickly as men after they've had an orgasm. You would have to go back to square one-foreplay. Think of it as teasing her for the big finale. You could stretch out a 10 minute session to a 30 min +

When it comes to fingering and oral, don't get caught up with finding her G-Spot. It takes years and LOTS of practice to find that missing link. All you want to do first is take your thumb and rub around entrance and apply pressure the base and shaft of her clit simultaneously. There are several nerves at the entrance of a woman's vagina, and if you feel her wetness leaking out then you know she's ready for penetration (especially if core has gaped open). Then once her clit is poking out and her vagina has gotten to be a dark pink/red give that button a good lashing, really clamp on, but not too hard it is equivalent to the head of your penis. Here's the fingering part...

To make sure you follow the groove of her walls, apply pressure with your finger and swirl your way into her vagina until you feel the path-you won't hurt her by going in the wrong direction with your nail. Stay on the roof of her wall and make a "come here" motion in the middle, to the left of her, to the right. Simply maintain the pressure. If she happens to pop up or really exaggerate with her moans you've found a good spot, so stay there. If you feel her getting wider and you think you can insert another finger *ASK FIRST*. You'll want to move the already used finger to the far left or right, pull your palm out a bit and insert the second finger, then quickly return to the "come here" motion.

Remember you're still working that clit in the mean time!

Tips on her arousal:

*If the lower half of her outer lips are swollen
*Her insides have gotten hotter and darker
*Her clit is poking out more, even throbbing
*She's becoming wetter

Oh! I just remembered a good spot-finder-position when fingering. Have her squat or kneel with her legs opened. Make sure her arms are positioned behind her to lean back and buck her hips when you finger her. It always works for me!

Small Breast

I'm not sure if your girlfriend has them, but please do not neglect! If she covers them when you or she takes off her bra, take her forearms gently and tell her you want to see them. Say they're perky, cute, or sexy.They are high sensitive and love to be cupped from the bottom and rocked from side to side. Stroke her nipples with your thumb and index finger going counter clockwise. Suckle on them, but without the teeth. Grab them and go in slow circles. She'll love it :)


Back and Butt

If the two of you ever decide to do Cow Girl (she's on top, facing you) don't forget the butt and back. Get a good grip of her rear and massage it, feel the curve of her sides and tickle the indent of her spine. Then you can pay attention to her breast and even clit. It's a very sensual technique.

Don't go too Deep

When you finally penetrate her with your penis make sure you don't feel a bump inside because you're hitting her cervix. Many women find this uncomfortable and even painful, so when things get hot and heavy simply listen out for her instructions to go harder/deeper. Make sure you do long slow strokes. That way she gets used to your size, and you get more lovin'.

Scars and Birthmarks

If you happen to spot any on her body simply give them a kiss. That's girl code for, He cares for my imperfections and flaws.

Not Trimmed or Shaved

If she's one of those all natural girls. Don't say SHIT! You immediately make her self-concious, wound up, and insecure. Simply, go with the flow and arrange your fingers so her pubic hairs aren't in your mouth or face. Maybe later ( not right after you have sex) you can advice a little trim. It's all about preference.

Safe Sex Tips

ALWAYS wear a condom AND have her on the pill. Even pulling out before you're about to cum (without a condom) can increase your chances of becoming pregnant. It's the 2nd worst contraception method next to the rhythm method ( you have sex according to the woman's cycle)


Umm I believe that's it Jonathan! I wish you luck with your first time :)