Small tits, big labia minora, feel ugly

Egads Allison, you sound amazingly sexy. I have always been attracted to petite women, hence my 28 year marriage to my 5'2" 104 lb wife, who has remained as sexy as the day our friendship turned into a relationship. My enjoyment of her intellect and personality was eclipsed the moment when she sat on steps in thin pants. Her lovely bulge was at eye level. She has small but sensitve breasts that respond to my caress. She loves it when I pleasure her lips with mine. To me, nothing is sexier than being able to touch her and have her respond. The breasts and lips are all the more sexy because they carry the message of my love and affection through her body to her heart. Yes the physical attraction is important, but the most important thing is that you not base the relationship on the appearance of certain parts of you, but how your personality carries them. They too will become the portal through which your lover will please YOU.

I personally hate implants and think they only suit women with nothing at all. I think small boobs are really cute, natural usually is, I find. Your labia seems pretty "normal" too many would say better than normal. I can think of worst things than being mistaken for your son's sister, are you kidding?

Please stay the way you are, natural is always more beautiful than messed around with.

Allison ; you sound just fine to me !, men do not like implants due to their un-natural look and feel, and as for labia, we do like something to admire and feel rather than the "doll" look favoured in synthetic porn. X

Hello Allison,
Many men, myself included, don't have ANY problems whatsoever with small breasts, and I personally know of quite a few women who carry theirs with pride.
Implants, especially large ones, are a total TURN-OFF for me.
I would quicker be attracted to your 32aa, in its natural state, than some humongous pair of silicone-filled head lights.
No, you will not be more attractive after labiaplasty. You don't need surgery because your labia ARE normal.
Just ask the guys on this site.
If you need any further positive reinforcement, please feel free to write to me.
Cheers
Gerry

I would absolute;y love to suck your huge meaty lips till you    first squirt and then cum.

People can be mean. From childhood we encounter many who would control our emotions with comments about our appearance. Media tells us what the ideal superhuman looks like and we feel inadequate. A friend of mine got a breast job and now the guys at the club call her bolt-on, how cruel is that? There is another gal who is a bit promiscuous who has a nickname I won't mention. The same men make fun of her; she is one of the sexiest women I know.  I am honest with myself and admit that I like both of these women, I accept them, think they are beautiful and they both have places in my heart. The gal with the breast job is just as sweet as can be. I liked her before surgery and I like her now. There is something sexy about smaller boobs, there is something sexy about augmented boobs also, neither change what a cruel person would say. What I want to know is how will those boobs look when you are 70? Will they compromise your health and depress your beautiful human spirit? You miss are a goddess, perfect in every way. I hope that whatever you do brings happiness and satisfaction. Consider this; one of the most beautiful women I ever knew was average looking. It was her soft loving spirit, objectivity, and kind demeanor that enhanced her beauty and made me want her.

Sounds like a nice combination to me. My girlfriend has small tits and a huge labia majora what she lacks in tits she more than makes up in pussy and this I love. Small tits look much more perkier than big ones and they are easier to handle and fit in your mouth. No matter what shhe wears her pussy always protrudes and is very visible. Small tits and  big puffy pussies are a good combination. She's also very married but her husband didn't pay attention to her so I did.

You all sound so positive. All the men I'm around carry on and on about breasts, even my husband called me "flat titted" implants have to be better then dealing with put downs all the time. Then there's the labia, I've not been with, but five men my whole life and only two have actually sen me nude in enough light to know what my pussy looks like. My labia minora are pretty large. I've heard all the ugly terms (I.E.) meat curtains and ect. I still don't know if I can just live with myself, I've dealt my whole life with these problems and men..even some women putting me down. I don't know what to do, but surgery to fix things seems like a better option the feeling ugly all the time.

Allison... there is nothing inherently bad or wrong about having small breasts or large labia!

If you wish to have a different appearance in order to please your husband... that's your call. I think large labia are pretty damn delightful. It gives a man something to explore visually before, during and after exploring it orally. It is a genuine one-of-a-kind work of art in your panties.  
Not wishing to put-down the slit-type pussy but it simply is not visually engaging. It can be like looking at a nude doll or action figure!

I can understand wanting to alter things about yourself in order to increase your partner's pleasure. But one has to wonder if undergoing the risk of surgery for the sake of someone who keeps hurting you is worth it? (and I assume that you have expressed to him your unhappiness with his put downs?)  

I sense that you pretty much already decided on your course of action. But try checking out this site www.ratemynaughty.com

Take a look at all the gorgeous variety of pussy out there and look at the mostly positive feedback. I encourage you to post your own pussy up there and see what responses you get. Due to my own bias I'd advise waxing or at least shaving...  
You don't have to tell anyone that you've posted your pics, it can be totally anonymous.  


And Allison you've said it: you need to find a better option to "FEELING" ugly. Not BEING ugly. That's a mental/emotional change you can achieve given time, support and love to yourself.

Oh, Allison. This feels weird to write, but if I could I would just give you a big hug! I totally feel you. Especially the last part you wrote now. Surgery is always in my head too (especially with my breasts, my stupid asshole ex whom I have written much about, heh, said he would by me tits if he had the money...), but I have chosen not to do a labia surgery, all thanks to this site. I went for a councelling, and they looked at me, "understood why I wanted it" and was about to talk about date, etc, but when she called me later I just felt: "No. I can't go trough with this". I still have huge issues about myself and sex, but about the labia I think more of: "Why fix something that is not really broken?" Cause you are not broken nor wrong in any kind of way! (Myself, I find it way hotter with larger labia rather than the tiny look. To me it is just plain...boring.) Your labia can bring you a great deal of pleasure if you set your mind to it. I have decided to not get surgery, but I haven't got much further than that. Yet. Although, speaking to someone else (you!) I just can't se one thing wrong with looking like we both do. (Big inner labias and small breasts.) Just because you tend to be so much crueler to yourself rather than someone else. I have seen pics with women who looks like you, and they are sexy and beautiful. I feel the same way about myself like you seem to do about yourself. But please don't cut off your labia! It is such a brutal thing to do, and there can be complications. Don't cut them off for the looks. Keep them for the sensation they can give you!  
Hope you give yourself a chance. Start with your labia. And you know, these people around here are really good making you feel good about yourself. ;)

Allison,

I wish to started by saying that you sound like a rare beauty. There fact that at 38 you are still frequently mistaken for a girl in her teens is something to be envied, not ashamed of.

Like most men, I like breasts, just because they're breasts, big or small, it doesn't make a difference to me. I even like fake breasts if they're well done, which tragically few are. Perhaps there loveliest breasts, with there most amazing nipples I've ever experienced couldn't have been larger than an A or AA cup. I really couldn't guess ask to what your husband is thinking calling you flat titted. My first thoughts are that he doesn't realize how much this hurts you, in which case you should tell him. Or he knows and doesn't care, in which case he's an asshole who needs his teeth kicked in. Either way, this doesn't strike me as something you say to someone you care about.


I understand you feel about all of the nicknames your fully developed labia receive. And I knows how much it hurts. I've always been smarter than average, and for several years I've had a problem with my weight. And I've been called every name you can think of connected to these two qualities, fat fuck, lard ass, nerd, geek, you name it, I've heard it. and it used to really hurt. But you knows what? There are actually women who like bigger guys with some brains. So instead of being a lard ass geek, I'm my wife's chubby hubby nerd, and she finds that sexy, so what do I have to complain about.

I know that sounded really digressive, but my pointy to that is this. Meatflaps, meatcurtains, batwings, roastbeef, or whatever you want to call them are, and will continue to be derogatory terms for labia that are fully developed used by people who dislike, or claim to dislike them. That's just a fact of life. But for people like me who find them sexy, words like that make me think happy thoughts. And there are more of us than there are of them. A lot more. In fact, for every person saying,"ewww meatflaps!" There are probably 9 or 10 of us saying,"where? Let me see!". So don't let expressions like that get you down. Own the expressions. Someone says meatflaps? You got them, lots of us  like them, so be proud of your batwings.

XOXO t_d

Truth be told I've had implants before, they caused some problems so I took them out, my breasts are scarred and flat, it's humiliating. I try to look past it but it's nearly impossible. I wear padded pushup bras to look good in clothes. Im so depressed over how my body looks I'd risk the implants again just to look sexy. I made a video clip for my husband but im too scared and ashamed to send it. I'd show you what I look look like if someone wanted to see to give me some honest feedback. If I did share don't be mean to me please, I already feel bad enough.

Just to clear things up my husband said that one time in anger after my implants came out. It's my mom that is always taking cheap shots at my body....yes my mother. She is the one who pushed me into getting implants, it started when I went through puberty. Thanksgiving, I was 13, I was budding, not much for breasts obviously but I wanted a bra, my mom stood up at the dinner table with ALL my family present and said "she wants a bra but she has nothing to put in it" everyone laughed, I was so hurt and embarrassed and she has got mean about it over the years....she is cruel.  
My husband has not said anything mean since, actually he doesn't say much about my labia or breasts at all. Good or bad. But due to that one time, I'm always scared he doesn't find me sexy.

Well you sound like a beautiful woman that's too worried about what others are thinking when you should just be happy with what the good lord gave ya! I would love to see some pics and I would give you honest feedback and also I've noticed that women with small breasts have outstanding long suckable nipples and your blessed with large labia you sound like a treasure email me some pics

You sound like a beautiful woman with a nice tight body, and I'd consider it a privelege to see and comment on your photos.

If your husband said those things once, long ago, in anger, I'm pretty sure he didn't really mean it. guys can say some pretty stupid shit sometimes. If you really want to know how he feels though, you should put him on the spot and ask him.

As for your mother... Well sometimes the truth hurts, and from here it looks like she's an unhappy person who's made a habit of hurting you. And I sort of got the feeling that the rest of the family isn't much better. Bottom line, if the people closest to me were anything like the people you've painted your mother, and those who laughed as she mocked you, I would'nt have had any contact with any of them for several years. Because if the impression I've gotten is even remotely accurate, you're better off without them.

Please remember...the perfect brest fits into a wine glass, and be proud of your body...I bet it is awesome...and beautiful

Hello Allison
Hope my post has helped you in some way. Would appreciate it if you send me the video clip you referred to.
Remember, at the end of the day, what really matters is your inner beauty. External beauty is an extrinsic asset and fades away with time.
Your inner beauty--- intrinsic assets --- your mind, your heart and your soul --in the final analysis these are the assets which matter, these are the assets which will define you and allow people to remember you, long after you have left this earth.
Would be nice to hear from you.
Cheers
Gerry

Allison, honey, please please please don't have surgery.  I know exactly how you feel, since I'm a 34aa cup myself, with broad shoulders.  But you know what?  I'm turning 40 soon, and my breasts are just as pert as they were when I was 11.  If you have a boob job, you will lose your natural pertness - you could also lose any nipple sensitivity, and (worst case scenario) you could end up with less breast volume than you already have, considering implants  need to be replaced every 10 years.

Now, about your labia.  Do you realise how many pleasurable nerve endings are  contained within your labia?  If not, before you decide to have labiaplasty, I suggest  that you very gently rub some sweet almond oil on your vulva  at least once a day, every day for the duration of your monthly cycle.  And if you have access to a hand held shower head, hold it close to your vulva and adjust the water pressure/temperature, and enjoy the sensations.

I think you worry too much about what other people might think, and not enough about how your body feels, and the pleasure it can give you!  In fact, I  think you sound quite sexy,  and if I ever met you, I could enjoy caressing and sucking your breasts, before moving on to those sensitive lips ;)