so much labia regret
Tuff
October 27, 2010
I guess I ended up here because I was at another page where ladies
were fretting about their protruding labia minora, and this page was
recommended to reassure these poor souls that they're normal,
healthy, and beautiful.
I have a little anecdote to share
because I think it illustrates things that are related to labia, but
also sexuality/sexual identity (and perhaps memory).
I
apologise if the anecdote seems a little graphic or bizarre to some
readers but I find that the story sounds like some sort of 'letter to
Penthouse' if I excise the parts that make the participants seem more
ambiguous/complex. I guess I don't mind if I titillate you but don't
mistake it for my primary intention.
Anyway, this story goes
back eleven years or so to when I'm about 19. I was with my first
girlfriend at the time, and we were in love etc. I'd never had a
highschool girlfriend because I never really connected with any of
the girls at my school, but after I'd left, when I was 18, I met this
girl and we quickly fell in love. As you'd expect, I met her friends
(as she might mine), and generally got along well with them.
One friend and I got on particularly well and I guess one reason
why this was so was because we were both inclined to talk a lot about
different sexual practices, paraphilias and various things about sex.
She was quite interested in anal sex. As it turned out, I had an
interest in anal sex as well. I had (and still have) a collection of
dildos, plugs, vibrators etc that I like to use on myself. I've had
anal sex with some of my girlfriends, but with most, I have not, so
I'm certainly not pushy that other people should enjoy it just
because I do. Furthermore, it's something that I do exclusively
alone; it's sort of compartmentalised from the sexual activities I
engage in with other people. I don't feel like it needs to be this
way but whenever I'm in a relationship, I never feel like bringing
that into it (although I'm open about what I get up to). But the fact
that this girl seemed to find it to be her primary means of
satisfaction certainly gave us something to talk about.
I'd
made a VHS video where I was inserting two dildos at once and my
girlfriend's friend wanted to see it. I'm sorry if the following
sounds strange but I think it's more appropriately attributed to
naivety than malice or disrespect for my partner... So, I invited
this girl around to watch the tape. We hung out for a bit and got
stoned and then started to watch the tape. After watching it for a
while, she asks me, "Do you mind if I masturbate?" Although this may
seem strange, I didn't really take that as an explicitly sexual
question. Rather, it was more like the sort of situation where you
masturbate with friends before or around early teen years.
So, I was like, "yeah, that's cool" and she started to
masturbate. I guess I kept watching the video of me masturbating but
at the same time I start to watch her out the corner of my eye. I ask
her, blithely, "Want me to give you a hand?" And she says something
to express that she does. It's at that point that I get a good look
at what she's fondling. Not only does she have an endearing patch of
strawberry pubic hair but I notice how pink, wet and fleshy her vulva
is. It's amazing. As soon as I see it, I fight to resist the urge to
get down on my knees and make out with her vulva. However, on the one
hand, I can resist because I had no intention of cheating on my
girlfriend, who I was still very much in love with and attracted to.
I honestly perceived masturbating this girl as just helping a friend
get off. So I start to rub her clit and I notice her wonderfully wet
she is. After a while she ended up getting me to stick two fingers
into her anus when she rubbed her clit to get off. After that, we
just sort of went back to watching something else. She told me
afterwards that she really wanted anal sex from me. However, I really
don't think I could have done that. It just would have felt too much
like cheating. To be honest, I don't even know if I had an erection
when I was masturbating her but I do know that my mind was on fire.
A few days later she told my girlfriend what had happened.
It caused a slight rift between my girlfriend and I; but seemed more
detrimental to their friendship. My girlfriend did seem to appreciate
that it seemed to be more sexual curiosity than infidelity. It's the
only time I've "cheated" on someone in any sense. My girlfriend and I
ended up splitting a year or so later under unrelated circumstances.
After we split, I wanted to see what her friend was up to,
really hungry to get another look, and maybe this time a taste of
her. But, I didn't want to look her up because I'd (ironically?) feel
bad about hooking up with someone who was a friend of my ex.
Then the years sort of rushed by and you're afraid to give them a
poke (via social networks) because you'd feel too carnal knowing that
the reason why you want to re-acquaint yourself with someone is
because you want another look at the most spectacular vulva you've
ever seen.
This was an interesting incident in my life
because it seemed to produce a dual fetish for red heads and
protruding labia minora. By fetish I just mean I like them. None of
my girlfriends have possessed either of those qualities and we've got
along fine, so it's not like it's a prerequisite for arousal. But I
do have that certain appreciation. I'm sure there are, and there's
plenty of testimonials on this site that confirm my suspicion, lots
of guys and lesbians who get turned on by protruding labia minor.
However, I reckon there are probably even more guys and lesbians who
just love girl-bits, no matter the shape or size. In that sense, I
think you have little reason to be afraid that a prospective partner
is going to be turned off.
Seriously, if they like you
and they've never seen one like yours before then you'll probably
just be creating a little fetish for them because I think they're
likely to find it endearing since it's a part of something that
they're already enamored with. I had no particular appreciation for
one until I saw her in the flesh. Yum.
Anyone who insults
any part of your body is giving you a ticket for a ride that's really
not worth taking. Surround yourself with the people who appreciate
the way you are because the world is a big enough place that you
shouldn't have to put yourself in the vicinity of people who diminish
you. I know it's easier said than done but any man who's going to
attempt to strike at the heart of your femininity and insult your
pussy is certainly capable of other transgressions. Avoid.
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