Sweetie Pie, I have heard about a very few individuals who just have a phobia about oral sex, and some of them just can't get past that phobia. I have never heard about someone who has a phobia about manual stimulation, however. It sounds like your boyfriend has some serious problems. Just be assured that the problems are his, not yours, and have nothing to do with the appearance of your pussy or the size of your lips. His statement that he's willing to take "baby steps" is at least a sign of willingness to try things, but WOW!! He's hard to believe. Since you love him so much, perhaps you should make the effort to try to educate him, lead him in the direction which you want to go. Otherwise, there are millions who would love to spend some time with you, and show you how much your pussy is appreciated and admired, how much pleasure it could give to you and to your lovers.