Uncomfortable with my appearance

You're beautiful. Don't get surgery. Just find someone who loves you, and love yourself. Look at pictures of large labia women. Put some up on your wall as art, black and white photos. Make a scrapbook of all the beautiful large lipped labia and start to see yourself as lucky. I don't have large labia, and I think they're absolutely beautiful! Naive me, I didn't know women could look like this down there, and it's gorgeous. All those folds and curves look like art (I'm an artist btw) and I find the large lipped labia really beautiful and pictures like these have begun to inspire my artwork. I think you should check out the book "Femalia" (it might be good, I haven't read it) and artwork by Georgia O'Keefe. You're beautiful, don't become a cookiecutter woman. Who decided that "same" is beautiful. We're all unique and you're beautiful.

I know how you feel, Lucy. I've cried when reading letters on here many times.  
My labia are also protruding and also a little dark, but we just have to trust that all men are not superficial idiots, who want their ladies to look like the girls you see in porn.  
I'm a virgin, and I've been very scared thinking about how a future boyfriend will react, but I've gotten in contact with different guys on the Internet this past year, and I've talked with them about this subject - and I have yet to find a guy to tell me it's a turn-off. Either it doesnt really matter to them - or they like it.  
I finally got the courage to actually show mine to one guy, and he found them really sexy. As weird as it might sound this was one of the greatest things I've ever done - and it has made me feel so much more comfortable with them.  
Sure, Im not totally confident about them, but I worry less now.

Dear Lucy,
Are flowers ugly? No! Does every flower look the same? No!
Some flowers have small petals. Some flowers have large petals.
All of them are beautiful in their own way. Many people have been taught that sex is dirty and we should be ashamed of our bodies. Ask your lover to hold a mirror for you to look at yourself. Arousal for me is much more than what I see. It is also about touch, taste, and smell. It's waking up in the morning next to a warm, soft, woman who is confident enough to ask me to make love to her. It's about being relaxed enough to let your lover put his mouth on you, and explore you. Please don't be afraid. You are beautiful, inside and out.
Steve

Im a lesbian and I also have been very embarassed and uncomfortable. Eventually i will become comfortable enough with the person im with to let them see my vagina, and most of them have no problem with it or may even like the way my labia look. However, I personally dont and will always want a surgery to correct it. This website has helped me a lot though, knowing im not the only one who feels this way. Thankx

this i say it is a gift i say  
if anyone says not it is a problem with ther inner self. why no man alive do not love grabing,, an pulling
an feeling the  thickness of a pussy,, i know it makes them sweel inside an they cannot stay out if your dross, why i know that because ive had it told many times an seen im a woman an love large labia, theyre the good stuff,, do not cutt it  do not torurte your self love it  rub it oil it an say it is a great assest to my life thjis little package,, a gift a goddess, love who you are an what you are many many woman would buy a pussy  like that they are paying big dollars,,for thickness an  just  making there pussy  larger  so honey,, enjoy your labia,,

hi dear
how about to discuss that personally through my e mail, osaw57@yahoo.com, and then u tell me what is ur opinion?
    best wishes,
                         dr osaw