I have had the same thoughts - like little lips would allow the
clitoris to be pulled on with intercourse, right? First of all buy
the book The Hite Report on Female Sexuality - I know its an old
publication but it is absolutely jam packed with stories written by
women about how they orgasm, very detailed accounts of how they
climax (or don't) and that whole myth about the vaginal orgasm.
Have you tried a pretty vibrator on it while you're having sex? They come in REALLY cute colours with sparkles and pearls these days - no creepy faux-flesh coloured dongs! :) And we're so lucky - with bigger clits and labia your partner should soon know how to give you pleasure with the vibe. Even better - masturbate for him so he can see closely how you like it. My bf does that for me - kisses and licks my labia while I use the vibrator on my clit - it's excellent - I also use it every time we make love to cum. :) He usually gets it for me!